Leaders: Stop Comparing Yourself With Others!

blog pic - stop comparing yourself to othersIf I could give one piece of advice for all leaders, it is this: BE YOURSELF!

Be you.

Stop trying to be someone else. Stop comparing yourself with everyone else. Just be you. Be the very best version of you that you possibly can be.

I love technology, but one negative result of the rise of technology is that it is so easy to see the success of others and compare yourself with them. You begin to wonder what is different about them that made them so successful.

You then start to try to be them in how you dress, how you act, how you talk, how you speak, and in how you lead.

You see Levi Lusko, and you wish that you could speak in tweetable quotes like he can.

You see Steven Furtick, and you wish that you could dress like him and have a worship team that is on point as his team is.

You see Craig Groeschel, and you wish you could pastor a church as large as his.

You see Andy Stanley, and you wish that you were as smooth as he is when he communicates.

You see Tim Keller, and you wish that you could expound on a passage of Scripture like he can.

You see organizations, and you wish you had as many employees that they do.

Then, what happens? You begin to compare yourself with others. You begin to use them as the measure for success. You begin to wonder what is wrong with you and what is right with them.

Listen, when you compare yourself with others, you lose every time!

You either compare yourself with others and fill up with pride because you came out on top or you compare yourself with others and begin to look down on yourself, because you are not near as successful as the person you are comparing yourself to.

You see, when you compare, you lose either way.

So, how do we navigate through this digital age without getting caught in the comparison trap?

1. Have a Healthy View Of Yourself 

God made you in the image of Jesus Christ. Let that sink in. Whether you are a pastor of a small congregation or a large congregation, you are made in the image of Jesus Christ.

He has loved you.

He has forgiven you.

He thinks the world of you.

He has created you perfectly just the way you are.

When I have a healthy view of myself, it means that I do not belittle myself but I also don’t think of myself too highly, either.

There is a balance between thinking of yourself too high or to low.

Don’t be cocky, but don’t cut yourself short either. You are pretty awesome 🙂

Find that balance and stay there.

2. Be Content Where You Are

I am not suggesting you refuse to grow or just stay comfortable with where you are.

Contentment doesn’t mean you settle. It just means that you are happy where you are.

We should be content with wherever life takes us.

If your organization only has two employees, be content.

If your church only has 200 people, be content.

If you only have two musicians at your church, be content.

We tend to think that the grass is greener at every other place than our own.

Listen, the grass is not always greener in the other church or organization. The grass is greener where it is getting watered the most so water your own grass.

Make where you are the very best that it possibly can be until you get moved somewhere else.

3. Recognize That What Works Somewhere Else May Not Work For You

It is easy for me to hear a sermon from someone and just assume that the idea or message will work for me and the people who I speak to.

It is easy to hear an idea and just assume that if it worked for someone else, it will work for us as well.

That is not always the case. Sometimes, ideas and talks are universal, but not every time.

Not every good idea works everywhere.

Not every sermon is a home run in every congregation.

It is okay to learn from others, but don’t lose sight of the filter that you have. Filter everything through who you are as a leader and through what type of organization you are in recognizing that not everything is going to work where you are.

What worked for another leader may not fit who you were created to be.

Your organization needs the very best version of you that you can possibly be. Don’t waste their time by trying to be the very best version of someone else. 


Published by Josh Evans

Josh is the connections pastor of the Oakleaf campus of Trinity Baptist Church in Jacksonville, FL. Before that, Josh had been a mentor and pastor to students for 10 years. Josh is passionate about empowering church leaders to make a difference. Josh and his wife Abby have two children. You can connect further with Josh on this blog or send him a direct email at joshhevans@gmail.com.

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