3 Things Pastors Need in Their Personal Lives

personal life of a pastor blog postAs I write this, my heart is heavy. My heart is broken for Perry Noble and Newspring Church. If you have not heard yet, you will soon- Perry Noble was removed from the senior pastor position at the church that he started nearly 20 years ago, NewSpring Church. He was removed because of an abuse of alcohol according to reports out of NewSpring.

As a Pastor and leader, I have been heavily influenced by Perry and the leaders of Newspring. I listen to their sermons, Perry’s leadership podcast, and I have attended their church before. In fact, last year, we took a team to an event that they hosted to train kids and student ministry leaders.

I respect and appreciate all that Perry has done for the church and for my life personally. I will pray for him and pray that complete restoration happens where he can find himself serving in the church again in the future.

Perry is just one of many who have been removed recently that I am aware of different reasons. I am not posting to debate why they were removed or anything of that nature. This post is to address some missing elements in the life of many pastors today.

Something is clearly missing in the personal life of many [Not all] pastors today. So, what is missing? Here are three things that are missing in the personal life of many pastors today:

1. Accountability

Healthy accountability leads to spiritual integrity [Click to Tweet]

I believe that many pastors lack personal accountability in their lives. If a pastor is struggling with something, they need an outlet just like everyone else.

The outlet should be someone who has the right to speak directly into the life of the pastor. The outlet should have authority to call out the pastor when he is messing up.

The problem is that pastors are afraid to tell any of their secrets for fear of losing their jobs.

Pastor, if you are reading this, I urge you to get an accountability partner and give them the right to speak into your life. You will be glad you did. Every pastor who I have talked to that has been removed from their position wishes that they had accountability in their lives.

2. Mentoring

Pastors preach to their congregations every week. They counsel their congregation and speak into their staff’s lives on a weekly basis.

This is all great and part of their job descriptions, but one thing every church should add to the job description of their pastors is that they have a mentor that they meet with regularly.

Pastors do a good job speaking into other people’s lives and influencing others, but every pastor needs someone who is speaking into their lives. Every pastor needs men in their lives who will sharpen and seek to grow the pastor in their personal walk with Jesus.

3. Group Life

We believe that we grow better together. We grow better through relationships.

Pastors spend so much time teaching others about Jesus that I believe they miss out on being taught themselves about Jesus.

One leader who exemplifies this point is Andy Stanley. I have so much respect for him, because he as a mega church pastor commits to being in a small group! He values being taught.

I believe that so many pastors are trying to pour into the lives of others, and they are trying to pour from an empty cup. [Click to Tweet]

Pastors, to grow others, you must first be growing yourself! [Click to Tweet]

Pastors, my heart goes out to you! You have a difficult job. Do not be one of these that we read about on the news one day. Seek accountability now to fix the deepest secrets of your life. Get a mentor! Give someone access to speak directly into your life. Then, be in a small group or a Sunday school class. Have a moment where you are being fed. It is a great example for your people, and it shows that you value your personal life.


Published by Josh Evans

Josh is the connections pastor of the Oakleaf campus of Trinity Baptist Church in Jacksonville, FL. Before that, Josh had been a mentor and pastor to students for 10 years. Josh is passionate about empowering church leaders to make a difference. Josh and his wife Abby have two children. You can connect further with Josh on this blog or send him a direct email at joshhevans@gmail.com.

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