If you really want to encourage and support your pastor, this blog post is for you. As I have observed church life, I have noticed different individuals who really can hurt and even destroy a pastor by the words that they speak. Some I believe do it unintentionally, and others do it intentionally. Now, in my experience the pastors loved their church members and the church, but sometimes church members forget that these pastors are real people.
Here are five things that your pastor regularly needs to hear from his church members:
- Praying for you – This is the easiest and the most important. As a pastor faces the difficult problems that he faces, the most encouraging thing that he can hear is “hey pastor, I am praying for you!” By the way, before you start saying this, make sure that it is true. That you are consistently and actively praying for your pastor!
- Whatever you need – I have heard pastors get up in the pulpit and beg for volunteers with no takers. What I have learned is that church members appear to be craving service, but it is usually is only on their terms. The most encouraging people are the ones who are willing to do whatever to get the job done. Pastors need these type of people in their congregations.
- Our Family Supports You – This phrase is so important, and it can affect the longevity of the pastor’s tenure. Usually when a pastor leaves a church, they feel a lack of support from the congregation. Sometimes, it may be the pastor’s fault, but in my experience, it is more the church members lack of followership to the person God has placed in the position of pastor. Support your pastor. I cannot type this phrase enough. He will be faced with the task of making difficult decisions, and he needs your support to be able to make difficult decisions.
- Let’s Hang Out – One of the major reasons pastors leave a church is because of lack of support, but also a lack of true friendship. Pastors need friends! Oftentimes, it is difficult to create this within the church congregation so pastors are forced to find this outside of the church. Look, it is okay to befriend your pastor. Do not ever allow a close friendship to affect his leadership in your life, but befriend him. Do not make a habit that every conversation you have with him is about the church and its health. Sometimes, pastors need to hang out with church members and discuss life and hobbies.
- We Love You – It is impossible to overuse the phrase “we love you,” when it is speaking directly to your relationship with your pastor. Get in the habit, and mean it. Do not just say it to say it, actually mean it! Live it by the things mentioned above. Pastors need to feel that their congregations love and care about them. By the way, when a church member is down, they expect love from their pastor. Pastors are human and need love demonstrated to them as well.