Book Review: The Dude’s Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick

the dude's guide to manhoodIt is quite obvious that masculinity is rapidly fading. In fact, it is very rare to find true manliness and masculinity in our culture. In his book The Dude’s Guide to Manhood, Darrin Patrick seeks to give men (Christians and non Christians) a road map to finding the path to true masculinity. In the first chapter, Patrick says “I hate asking for directions, most men do. Part of the reason we hate it is that we hate acknowledging that we don’t know.” This is so true. We pretend that we know where we are going, and what we are doing even if we do not know. In the dude’s guide to manhood, Patrick seeks to provide that roadmap to help men everywhere with direction and ultimately finding true masculinity.

The best chapter for me was found in chapter 11 when Patrick speaks about the heroic man. Patrick goes back to the greatest hero as the example. That example is Jesus Christ. To be perfectly clear, the only criticism that I would have with this book is possibly that the book is not about Jesus enough. The book could have been written by a secular author. This does not in any way discount the principles and great context of the book. In fact, Piper mentions in his quick tidbit of the book “Buy a bundle, read one, and give the rest to believing and unbelieving guys you know.” This book is great for all men. Chapter 11 was great though. Patrick looks to the greatest example, Jesus, in how He was a determined, coachable, disciplined, working, content, family, devoted, connected, emotional, and a fighting man. The book goes through and challenges men to live out each of these characteristics. Jesus is the ultimate example of each of these.

One interesting tidbit regarding the book that makes the book and its author valid is the testimony of the life of Patrick. His father was not what he should have been. He experienced a troubling past, but did not allow that to determine his future. Yes, he made mistakes, but eventually got right. When reading this book, you connect with the author and its past as he opens up the doorway to the life of Patrick. This transparency and honesty will challenge and inspire all men.

I recently read Manhood Restored by Eric Mason. You can read my review here. I have enjoyed the opportunity to read these books on men. They both challenged me deeply. I would give Patrick’s book a 7 out of 10 for me.

Note:  I received this book free from the publisher through the book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive/negative review.


Published by Josh Evans

Josh is the connections pastor of the Oakleaf campus of Trinity Baptist Church in Jacksonville, FL. Before that, Josh had been a mentor and pastor to students for 10 years. Josh is passionate about empowering church leaders to make a difference. Josh and his wife Abby have two children. You can connect further with Josh on this blog or send him a direct email at

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