It is easy to make the “stand out” students a huge part of your ministry, because they do just that, they stand out. What about those quiet students who do not stand out in the crowd, but rather quietly attends? Are either more important? No, both are important and both should be a part of your student ministry. How can we do that?
- Treat every student the same– Now, obviously, some students respond to different relationship styles differently, but every student at the core should be treated the same. I am not saying talk about the same stuff with every student, because students are different, but I am talking about being partial. We should not be partial to the rich, and not to the poor. The ground must be level in our youth groups. We turn so many students away because we as youth pastors tend to be too partial to the “stand out” students rather than the “sit back” students.
- Connect every student– Try and give every student some responsibility in the ministry. Each student deserves some type of ownership. Do not just use the “stand out” students, but look for ways to use the “sit back” students as well. Connect them to the church, to a small group and its leader, and to a ministry.
- Be cautious for bullying– Bullying is a HUGE problem in youth groups. The “popular” kids feel that they can pick on the less popular kids without any personal damage being done. Youth pastors and leaders, be on the look out that students are not coming to your ministry and being bullied. If you see it, step up, and stop it!