7 Ways to connect with your small group students

Do you ever feel like you are not connecting with your small group students? Sometimes, I can hang with some students, and suddenly feel so disconnected to them, and feel that our relationship is not healthy or strong. How can we build stronger relationships and connect more deeply with the students in our small groups?

  1. Visit them at their house– This seems old-fashioned, but it works. It not only allows you to get into their comfort zone, but you get the opportunity to connect and get to know their parents. If you are a small group leader, and do not even know where your students live, that is not a good thing. Visit them about once every month at their home.
  2. Text them weekly– You should text them during the week to encourage them. Let them know that you were thinking of them and praying for them.
  3. Attend events that they are involved in– If they are involved in drama, attend their dramas. If they are involved in sports, attend their sporting events. This shows that you care.
  4. Invite them over to your house– If you get into their comfort zone, allow them to get into yours. Invite your small group over for pizza and to watch something on television. It gets them talking.
  5. Eat lunch with your students– Now, many schools have outlawed this, but some still allow it. If your school allows it, take advantage of it.
  6. Start a facebook group for your small group only– Post to this regularly with weekly prayer requests and thoughts. Also, post discussion questions for them to answer.
  7. Take them out for pizza and an activity– Take your entire group to the movies if you find a good and fitting movie. You could take them to ride go karts or just to hang at the mall.

These are just a few of the many ways that you can better connect with your small group students. I encourage you to be creative and show your group that you care. If you have something that you have done with your group at some point in time, and would like to share, please feel free to comment below:

Published by Josh Evans

Josh is the connections pastor of the Oakleaf campus of Trinity Baptist Church in Jacksonville, FL. Before that, Josh had been a mentor and pastor to students for 10 years. Josh is passionate about empowering church leaders to make a difference. Josh and his wife Abby have two children. You can connect further with Josh on this blog or send him a direct email at joshhevans@gmail.com.

8 thoughts on “7 Ways to connect with your small group students

  1. Great post Josh.

    The point about having them into your house, I think, is the biggest one. Nothing communicates to students that you care and want to be a part of their lives like inviting them to be a part of yours. Simply opening your doors of your home opens the greatest doors of ministry, at least in my experience.

    1. Ben, thanks for stopping by! I agreed, I thought that was a huge one as well. Obviously, some of them are obvious and simple, but we overlook some of the easiest and most effective ones. We are comfortable, and we struggle to let students get into our comfort zone. We encourage them to get out of their’s, but we are nervous about getting out of ours. Great point Ben, and thanks for stopping by to check out the blog.

    1. Jeremy, I appreciate you connecting with me through twitter and the blog. Honestly, having them over to our house has changed my connection with the students. I have a much stronger connection with the students, and they have felt much more open to discuss things with me! It is great. When you change that, let me know how it goes.

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